If there is one piece of tactical knowledge modern
man needs to add, it's the female hot button: being
Shit, Neal, and just when I thought I was going to
get something done today - you pop in with the best
post I have seen in a long time.
I would like to take your tactical point, and expand
it to show how it works STRATEGICALLY.
Once men understand WHY being ignored is so
devastating to women, we will have a weapon of
I'm not going to write a thesis on this, so just let
me say that I have researched the hell out of this
and can provide all the citations and evidence
the outline will be presented in sound bites.
Everywhere in nature, the male is the reproductive
servant of the female. This goes down to the level of
plants which have "male" and
The ripening of an egg, or ovum, is a time and energy
intensive job, so the male is designed to be ready to
fertilize that ovum when the female notifies him that
she is "ready."
In the rest of the natural world, females announce
their readiness to the entire world with a variety of
cues - smell being the most significant, but visual
cues come in a close second.
When a female chimpanzee is in estrus, her genitals
swell up and become a SPECIFIC shade of bright pink.
Jane Goodall observed one such female whose genitals
could be seen from across a valley - nearly a mile or
There is a species of fish in which the belly of the
female turns a particular shade of red when she is
gravid. A block of wood with the lower half painted
that exact shade of red will drive males into a
Smell is even more important. There are MANY species
in which a female in heat gives off pheromones which
are specific to that species which can be picked up
by males as much as 5 miles away.
OK, now here is the bombshell which usually blows a
lot of men's groups apart. One of the most
destructive concepts we have against us is creation
isms. Unless people are able to see that humans are
part of the natural world and ruled by the same
influences as all other living things, they are able
to believe that change can be imposed "top
down" by some sort of outside authority, instead
of arising inevitably from our inherent natures.
Jamichael - this would be our "is-ness" -
our inherent nature which makes us what we are, and
not what we are not.
Mating behavior does NOT get mediated in the new
brain, or the cortex. It happens in the brain stem
and spinal cord, the old or "reptile"
In the days when such experiments were still allowed,
you could open a cat's skull and suck out all the
cortex. Sexual and mating behavior was not affected
at all, but social behavior was destroyed.
Human females have introduced a new factor in the
game - they ovulate COVERTLY. There is no way to tell
when they are fertile and when they aren't - although
we are beginning to hear about studies which suggest
that women on the pill smell differently.
The human male adaptation to this has been to pay
greater attention to women and the subtle cues they
give off that they are fertile. These are these
"signals" that women always talk about
giving off and getting so angry at men when they
don't pick up on them.
The problem lies in the fact that women have become
adept at FAKING these cues in order to trigger men's
mating responses - thus giving them huge amounts of
power to manipulate men. Men react in their spinal
cords to a woman's facial lips reddened with
lipstick, exactly the same way they would react to a
different set of lips reddened with sexual ripeness.
Purely FEMALE power depends entirely on how many
males she can capture the attention of. The more
males vying for the chance to fertilize her egg, the
more CHOICES she has.
So, when women like Andrea Dworkin say they have no
power, they are speaking the absolute truth. She has
no FEMALE power because she is ugly as sin and men
run in the other direction screaming. So, she wants
In Warren Farrel's one really good book, "Why
men are the way they are" he talks about females
becoming used to being "genetic
celebrities" and men being "genetic
Women grow up being accustomed to having to do
nothing more than show up in order to be the center
of male attention. Like any child, their behavior
gets shaped to maximize the rewards they get, and by
two years after they hit puberty most females are
masters of the art of sexual manipulation.
This is the reason for the extreme restrictions
placed on girls in tribal cultures where the kind of
endlessly self-centered manipulation of immature
females would destroy the tribe. Women in the middle
east wear the burqa and women in Africa take little
girls and cut their genitals OFF because purely
selfish behavior will destroy the cohesiveness of the
tribe which is essential for its survival.
The old structure of marriage was designed mostly to
benefit older women because the power of a young
fertile female over men of all ages is universal. By
locking people into a marriage which could not be
broken, women were guaranteed to be cared for into
old age. The smarter ones used the years of their
peak sexual attractiveness to build emotional bonds
with their husbands which would endure into their
"not sopretty years."
When women got "liberated" from all this,
the culture was thrown back to a situation where
sexual power was everything. And, so far the first
two quarters of the gender war have been fought in
women's territory when they did still have sexual
But, things are changing. The boomers are getting
old, and boomer men are losing interest in women at
the same time that boomer women are getting so ugly
that no one takes an interest in them. Chapin's
series about the "Quagmire of Older Women"
is dead on target.
I totally disagree with Mike. If men allow women to
get away with the shit they have gotten away with,
and come in and rescue women from the painful
consequences of it, there will be no learning at the
The strategy which I believe will work for men is the
equivalent of the labor management practice of a
"lockout." Women wanted out of the system
as it was, OK. Now that they are out, we don't let
them back in.
There is a great old story about PT Barnum. One of
his shows was so successful that the crowds were
becoming dangerous. People were so packed that there
was a real danger of some of them getting trampled.
So, he had his carnies open some of the gates and his
barkers start shouting "This way to see the
The herd surged through the gates and found out that
"egress" means "exit."
I believe that natural forces are going to rule the
day and that they are already in motion and already
having an effect - I believe they are what is
responsible for the effects that you are seeing,
Neal. As decent men have gone on a marriage strike,
the sneaky fuckers have moved in. (that is the actual
name of an anthropological theory)
The birth rate in the black community has not fallen
a bit from the destruction of the black family. I
know one black guy who has 6-7 women he boinks on a
regular basis. Black women are pretty hard up because
so many black men are in prison and so many of them
are dying so young.
So, back to your point about ignoring women, it is
more than just a tactic for an individual man to use,
it is a culture level STRATEGY for men which will
have women screaming for their men back in no time at
And, Mike is completely full of shit on his
"turn the other cheek and don't take revenge on
Boomer men OWE it to younger men to make life as
miserable as we possibly can for boomer women. OK,
now here is where the fact that I am NOT a Christian
really begins to come out.
Buddhists don't believe in "salvation." We
believe in karma. Everyone suffers according to the
level of their own bullshit.
When that dumb mother fucking televangelist called
for "forgiveness" of Karla Faye Tucker
because at the last moment she "found the
lord," I went berserk.
Women have made their bed, and if men do not make
them lie in it, then men have asked for all the shit
they have gotten and I will cease to have any
sympathy at all for them.
I simply cannot go back to the innocent optimism that
I had when I was a teen-aged boy. I have personally
been burned so many times, and seen every man I know
burned so many times, that I am no longer
"Charlie Brown, the sincere BLOCKHEAD,"
willing to be made a fool of ONE MORE TIME by Lucy
who suckers me into believing that she will do what
she promises, but a cagey old curmudgeon who simply
expects women to lie and cannot be hoodwinked by
Men now must completely destroy marriage. It is too
corrupt and too fouled to fix. It is a derelict
building which MUST be torn down so that something
useful can be built in its place.
We cannot stop the marriage strike. The real
"men's movement" is millions of wildcat
strikes of one man who has woken up to what bullshit
"marriage" as it exists today really is.
No matter how big a dam one builds, a river will
ALWAYS overcome it. We cannot either push, or hold
back, the river. It will proceed at its own pace.
We can however, clear out the snags which naturally
hold it back and let natural forces speed up the
Women have turned their backs on us when WE needed
THEM. Now we must turn our backs on them when THEY